Key to everlasting happiness : Enjoy your own company

We are social animals. We need people around us to interact with all the time. We learn from them and share our wisdom. There is nothing wrong in this, in fact its a great feeling to have. But, the problem starts when we start relying on others to make ourselves happy. No one wants to be alone. Fear makes us believe that we can only be happy if we are surrounded by people. Isolation is a doom for us. Isn’t it?

Don’t you get this strong feeling that you are trying to be a part of a crowd just so that you don’t get isolated? And, once you get into this mindset, all the problems start to occur in your life.

Craving for people around you is a disease, because, you are driven not by yourself but by others’ presence. To be around people, you try to change yourself to be one of them. You don’t like to go to parties but you do go there because everyone else is going there. You keep on doing this everyday and make it your habit. In this whole process you are literally losing your identity. You don’t even know who you really are. You are wearing a fake mask to entice people just so that you aren’t left out.

This is a serious problem most of us are going through these days. If you think about it, you are basically afraid of being left out because you are not like them. You are different and you know that. Unfortunately, crowd likes uniformity. If you are different, most probably you are going be thrown out of the herd.

Now comes your choice!

EITHER you can wear a fake mask your whole life and be like them (which 8 out of 10 people do most of the time) and eventually loose your identity OR you start to learn enjoying your own company. Its a slow process and can’t be learnt in a day. But, believe us once you learn this trait, no one can ever make you unhappy. You will get control of your life. You will be set free. Isolation won’t bother you again. And, most important – you will get to know yourself better.

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The magical ingredient!

As a human being we all want to excel in our life, be it a better job opportunity, more happiness, better place to live in, keeping fitness at peak and so on. The wish list is indeed a long one and completely personal opinion, but all of these are depending on one vital ingredient.

Instead of going directly to that magical vital ingredient, let’s uncover some other interesting behavior. We are designed in such a way that we require some time for us, which is our own personal time and I call it “metime”. The time used for own contemplation, mediation or even a jog to connect our inner self deeply. This is a must to rejuvenate our self.

Now, coming to the magical ingredient which is indeed very common but sometimes we are not conscious about it, which is “connection”. Why…?  Let’s explore!

In order to excel in a particular area/domain we have to expose our self to that and the best way is to meet people. The ones who are in the same field, the like minded people. The more we interact, discuss and engage our self with someone who is on the same turf the better we become. For example, One is interested to learn a musical instrument. So look for communities near your place, online/offline training and connect to as many as possible. The more we are connected the more we learn! And this can be associated to every sphere of life, be it sports, technology, poetry or even spirituality!

What is your opinion?

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How to achieve your maximum every day?

We all desire to perform well and give our best every day. How can we achieve it daily? Is it very tough to achieve it? Fortunately, not really 😊, it is indeed very easy and simple. The trick lies solely on one basic routine which we ignore mostly without realizing its intense power.

Did the below comparison help? Yes, it all depends on how we embrace that particular day or I would say every day.

Just after waking up and starting our daily chores lies those moments which conditioned our mind for the day. The very thought of the dreaded meeting or getting late or any other thought which triggers anxiety will stick with the whole day making us tired and drained. Instead spend those special moments showing gratitude, praying for your near and dear ones and thanking the superpower for the fantastic life. This will definitely need a couple of minutes, hence it is wise to prepone the alarm clock to intently follow the rituals rather cutting the rituals for a longer sleep. Though it is very simple yet very powerful, sometimes the finest things can be experienced by doing some simple routine.

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41 life hacks for an enriching 2019

Everyone wants to be happy but only a few people can really achieve real happiness for a longer period of time in their lives.

It is not that they are not trying for it. But, they feel that void within them. Constantly looking for something more.

Ironically, the more you run after the happiness the quicker it gets away from you. Isn’t it?

And, when you actually understand the mechanism behind the happiness, you are either too old or dead or both.

So, why not try to figure out the ways to achieve everlasting happiness in our lives?

Honestly, these life hacks are quite simple to do. But, for some reason, we make things harder for ourselves.

Below you will find list of very small changes you can incorporate and turnaround your life to make it more happier, fulfilling and enjoyable in 2019 and beyond. These changes will work like a charm for you.

Give it a try and see the difference.

1. Expect less and give more – people usually do this in reverse order.
2. Don’t compare yourself with others. You are disrespecting yourself by doing so.
3. Spend less on things you don’t really need.
4. Read something – you will get smarter than you already are.
5. Drink an extra glass of water.
6. Smile for no reason – Smile goes a long way.
7. Meditate for 5-8 mins before you get out of your bed – Mind is your greatest strength and hardest to tame.
8. Don’t check your phone while eating food – Many are not that lucky to have it. Enjoy your meal.
9. Drive on long empty roads.
10. Leave a tip for the waiter – It might make his/her day. You never know.
11. Hug often – Everyone needs it and very few offer it.
12. Listen to people more – People love to be heard. It gives them a sense of importance.
13. Give your used clothes to the poor – clothes on someone in need are always better than they sitting in the closet.
14. Have a hot cup of coffee with someone you care.
15. Run for 10 mins – sweating renews you in every possible way.
16. Avoid social networking websites for at least an hour – if you think about it, no one actually cares what you are doing.
17. Take the stairs whenever possible.
18. Avoid judging people often – you don’t know what they are going through.
19. Call a friend just to say hello – People love happy surprises.
20. Don’t take life for granted. Live in the moment – someone is hanging on to the last breath and can give anything to live.
21. Spend time alone – knowing yourself better is the best investment you can do in yourself.
22. Ask questions – assumptions can be too good to ignore. Stand out. Reason everything.
23. Talk to your parents more. You are going to miss them when they are gone.
24. Standup for yourself because no one else will.
25. Set boundaries with people.
26. Don’t say YES if you don’t mean it.
27. Keep yourself warm.
28. Keep a plant on your desk.
29. Spend some time on your hobby.
30. Take risks by believing in your instincts.
31. Go to a library once in a while.
32. Invest for your old age.
33. Don’t take life too seriously.
34. Indulge lesser in addictive habits.
35. Brush your teeth before you go to bed.
36. Dream bigger.
37. Admire this world. Take care of your eyes.
38. Don’t settle for less. Make things happen.
39. Sleep, cry, hold, jump, and love like a baby.
40. Give food to animals – being on top of the food chain comes with the responsibilities.
41. Look at yourself in the mirror often. You are the one. The World only has a single copy of you. BE PROUD of yourself.

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Your heart is your best GPS

Your heart is your best GPS

In today’s era, you can’t imagine a life without a GPS (Global Positioning System). You believe in the directions provided by it more than anything else. Definitely, GPS has become an integral part of our survival.

Unfortunately, it has a big limitation.

As you know, Universe is nothing but an elegant mesh of SPACE and TIME. All GPSes we rely upon the most can help you travel in SPACE i.e. they can take you from point A to point B. However, when it comes to travel in TIME or in other words – to direct us in the unknown future, these GPSes are of no use.

But don’t worry. For this very reason, we are blessed with the best GPS we can possibly have – “HEART”. As long as you are following the directions given by your Heart, rest assured that you are diving into a future having the most enriched and fulfilling experiences of your life.

Let’s get on to the great features of this BEST GPS.

Gives you moments to enjoy along the journey

As the GPS shows us places to enjoy, to eat, to rest, to shop while driving, HEART shows us ways to enjoy every single moment of our journey in the best possible way.

It somehow knows your destination and what you really want

Like GPS, HEART knows our destination. It knows what we really want in life. Believe in it. Follow the instincts.

Shows you the path with least traffic

As our GPS shows us the path which has the least traffic, HEART takes you on a path which is rarely taken and is the best for you. People in herds are following a path because of fear.

Without it, you are lost in the unknown

As with our GPS, if we lose it we are completely lost and helpless. So is the case with the HEART. If you lose it while moving forward in your life you are aimless and impactless.

It makes you aware of your current location

The way GPS tells you your ‘current’ location on the map, the HEART helps you be in the ‘current’ moment, where there are not guilts of the past and no worries of the future.

In short, there is absolutely NO reason not to follow your heart.

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Save the planet! Save Now!

As a human being, all of us wants to stay happy, isn’t it? We desperately want that one particular thing in our life. Anyone who disagrees, please let us know in the comment section. I would love to hear from you!

Happiness can be achieved by various means. ‘By helping others’ is one of the ways.

Happiness is the consequence of what we do and how we behave. By helping someone we can feel tremendous happiness. All of our emotional hormones are at their peak, helping us in two ways.

Firstly, we start cherishing the happiness we get by helping others.

Secondly, by helping someone such as our family members, friends, colleagues, pet, or an unknown person on a street or railway station – we collect many browny points on an invisible Grade Card – KARMA! 

Karma does matter!

Why not fill that invisible grade card with our good work and help. Delving deeper into the topic, let’s explore the astounding planet Earth which is very much related to our topic. The Earth is rotating at a speed of 1000 miles per hour or 460 meters per second without even an iota of human help, but we together can make a lot of contribution to the mother earth to make it a better place. We are not going to stay here for a very long time so why not make our stay worthwhile.

Take the initiative. Take that baby step and help in conserving our mother Earth! It’s just a matter of a few small steps taken over a period of time. 

We can start with switching off the electrical appliances when not in use, thereby saving tremendous power. A basic habit that is still missing in our lives. Here, let me share my personal experience, once I started doing these things I experienced a fabulous sensation. Don’t miss that opportunity to feel boundless. There are many people who still don’t get to use electricity and stay in dark. Let’s take a step towards conserving electricity and experience the happiness that we get from our this new habit. 

Another simple step could be to turn off the water taps when not in use. Water scarcity is a major issue that our world is currently facing. Just imagine one morning you get up from your bed and you don’t get water to use. Just think…. Thanks to our population, even a single drop of water saved by us can make a huge difference. 

Littering not only makes the Earth dirty place to live but also some wastes such as plastic waste chokes the natural water flow, causing flooding. Carry a tiny dustbin, be it the side pocket of your backpack, your pocket or purse.

Even though we can afford to stuff our plate with a lot of food, it does not mean that we can waste the food. Many people around us sleep empty stomach. Hence feel the motivation within you to not waste food. We can inculcate this habit by taking a small portion of food, finish it and then go for next serving. Remember, that little walk will help us to reduce the calories.

Owing to our worlds population, a small contribution from each of us, when combined, can cause a magnanimous effect.

Spread the message! Start it now! Ask your near and dear ones too. Make a difference. Just think of an invisible grade card that gives you score on doing something to preserve the mother Earth.

Why not leave the planet with a good grade? Good for us and best for others!

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You can LIVE LONGER than you think

Let’s face it. We all want to go to heaven but unwilling to die. If we get an opportunity to add an extra 10 years to our life span, we would go grab it with both hands.

However, we all know that is not how this works. So, it compels us to think – “What if there was another way to achieve this?”.

If you ask this question to someone or read about potential answers on the internet, you would get the below answers [most of the time] :

1. Live your life to the fullest
2. Eat healthily
3. Exercise regularly
4. Do what you love

and so on and so forth…

We know all about these ways to live longer. Information about this is scattered all over the place. Though all these old school ways are helpful to a certain extent, these are not insanely smart ways. I hope you would agree with me on this.

What if I say there is another subtle way (which I am sure we know subconsciously but we never notice it)? Let me give you an example.

Think about the time when you drive to work, to a friend’s place, to a restaurant or to any other place for that matter. You would feel like ‘the time it took for you to reach these places was much longer than the time it took for you to return. Though the distance remains the same’ – An easily ignorable difference in time lapsed but a significant one.

It happens with us because as humans we have a tendency to attach ourselves to the destination. And, when we do so, time slows down for us. As a result, we feel like we spent more time than we actually did on that task.

Interestingly, while we are on our return trip – we don’t have any destination to attach ourselves to. And, we start enjoying the journey [affinity to destination dissolves completly]. Thereby, we feel like time lapsed is much lesser than it actually had.

It’s human psychology. We can play with our brains by making it believe that the time lapsed was lesser than the actual – THAT IS A TIME GAINED FOR US.

Isn’t it rational to say that as soon as we shift our focus from DESTINATION to the JOURNEY, subconsciously we are buying ourselves more time?

What an awesome way to add years to our life but we ignore to do it every single day.

What a great way of living longer or I should say “feeling like you are living longer”.

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How to live life to your fullest?

Humans are interesting, aren’t they? By looking at other living beings, we perform a lot of similar activities but in a more different and efficient way. Which makes us think that we are more intelligent than others, sitting on the top of the food chain.

As a human being, we want to be happy, have a great family, earn significant money, and enjoy the advanced technologies. There will be a long list of items which we think will make us happy, right? However, most of us still feel that void in their lives. A piece that is missing and we desperately want to fill it. That missing piece is MOTIVATION which plays a vital rule in pushing us further every single day to strive for happiness and completeness in our lives.

We have heard a lot about this fancy word ‘MOTIVATION’ in every book, blog, documentary, pep talk etc., but somehow it gets lost from our life, isn’t it?

Even a laptop or server gets hung and needs a reboot. When a machine which is devoid of any emotions can get stuck, a human being with so much intelligence, emotion can easily get de-motivated. So, the deal is to stay motivated most of the time so that we can pursue our objectives and goals and experience our higher self.

People have different ways of getting themselves motivated. For some, a pep talk, for some, a paragraph from the book which can trigger the neurons or for some, a face to face talk with a person can do the trick.

Some get motivated when they walk or run, some when they swim and the list goes on and on. If you pursue your hobby or activities which you enjoy doing, that will definitely motivate you. Personally, I felt a rigorous walk flushes out the negative and dull energy and makes my vision clearer.

What is your way to get MOTIVATED?

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Good habits – ‘A Fibonacci Sequence’

Before you google to see what ‘Fibonacci sequence’ means, let me give you an easy way out.

“It is a sequence characterized by the fact that every number after the first two is the sum of the two preceding ones”.

1,1,2,3,5,8,13,21,34,55,89,144, ….

To put it in a simpler way, it can be said that every number in the Fibonacci sequence is powered by its predecessors. Isn’t it?

Here is a beautiful analogy for you to consider.

When you dive deeper into your lives, you can easily see this Fibonacci mechanism in action. Let’s see how.

As we know that our quality of life is nothing but our quality of good habits. The things we repeatedly do are “Our habits”.  We don’t own a good habit until we keep on doing it for certain amount of time (It could be 21 days or 30 days).

The 1st day of you trying a good habit is always the toughest. However, on the 2nd day, you will feel it a little easier to do. On the 3rd consecutive day, even easier. What is going on here? Why does the human body act like this? The reason is simple – Every single day you try to embrace that good habit into you, you are actually powering your efforts for the next day.

So, if you do it on the 1st day it is eventually helping you to feel easier to do on the 2nd day. Similarly, you doing it on the second day is helping you to feel easier to do on the 3rd day, so on and so forth.

Imagine you doing it on the 30th day – [it implies that all the efforts you have put in for the last 29 days are going to power up your 30th-day efforts – a Fibonacci sequence].

This is the reason why there is a saying that – it takes 30 days to build up a good habit. Nothing fancy. Its ‘Mathematics’.

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