Before we figure out what the difference is, let’s find out what affection really is.
It is something that makes us harder to get unattached from. An uncontrollable pull towards something or someone. And, to attain something or someone, we end up investing everything we own for a person or a thing.
We are always in an illusion that affection is nothing but our intense form of love. Isn’t it right? Don’t we think affection/attraction is the same as Love?
If you think about it more closely, you will know that there is a significant difference between the two.
When there is love for a person – you try to give happiness to that person.
However, when there is affection for a person – you treat the other person as a means for your own happiness.
When there is love for a person – you don’t keep yourself as the center of everything. It is all about the other person.
However, when there is affection for a person – you are the center of all. It is all about you.
When there is love for a designation or a position – you would work on yourself to deserve that position.
However, when there is affection for a designation or a position – you would be ready to achieve it by any unethical means possible.
When there is love for having a good fortune – you would work hard to get it.
However, when there is affection for having a good fortune – you would try to steal it.
If you have affection for someone, you tend to consider that person as a means for all your happiness. And, when you don’t get that person – your whole life turns upside down. Isn’t it so?
Now that you know the difference, how can you save yourself from affection? Is there a way out?
Yes, there is. Just turn your affection into love. As simple as that. Understand that your own happiness or sadness can’t be based on a person or a thing. Your happiness or sadness is your internal affair. It is the nature of your soul.
Affection always tries to bind you – that is why it is the reason for your sadness. On the other hand, Love offers freedom – that is why it is the basis of happiness. Think about it.