We are social animals. We need people around us to interact with all the time. We learn from them and share our wisdom. There is nothing wrong in this, in fact its a great feeling to have. But, the problem starts when we start relying on others to make ourselves happy. No one wants to be alone. Fear makes us believe that we can only be happy if we are surrounded by people. Isolation is a doom for us. Isn’t it?
Don’t you get this strong feeling that you are trying to be a part of a crowd just so that you don’t get isolated? And, once you get into this mindset, all the problems start to occur in your life.
Craving for people around you is a disease, because, you are driven not by yourself but by others’ presence. To be around people, you try to change yourself to be one of them. You don’t like to go to parties but you do go there because everyone else is going there. You keep on doing this everyday and make it your habit. In this whole process you are literally losing your identity. You don’t even know who you really are. You are wearing a fake mask to entice people just so that you aren’t left out.
This is a serious problem most of us are going through these days. If you think about it, you are basically afraid of being left out because you are not like them. You are different and you know that. Unfortunately, crowd likes uniformity. If you are different, most probably you are going be thrown out of the herd.
Now comes your choice!
EITHER you can wear a fake mask your whole life and be like them (which 8 out of 10 people do most of the time) and eventually loose your identity OR you start to learn enjoying your own company. Its a slow process and can’t be learnt in a day. But, believe us once you learn this trait, no one can ever make you unhappy. You will get control of your life. You will be set free. Isolation won’t bother you again. And, most important – you will get to know yourself better.